Signs you39re dating a commitment phobe
When you’re dating a commitment-phobe, it can seem very hopeless and difficult to fix…but the key is spotting the signs and weighing them against your absolute needs in a relationship.Have you ever met someone who "romantically" knocked you off your feet -- as in "Hi Mom and Dad...you're not going to believe this, but I just met the man of my dreams! How did they miss the obvious warning signs before they became intimate and gave their heart away? " or "He wants the same thing I want: to settle down and have children.") For those of us who've been in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person, we know the pain of not being able to get close to the person we love.You find yourself drawn to them despite the doubt in your head.Not just their outward appearance but also their traits and quirks that feel so animated and alive. Your SO probably doesn’t think this is going to last long enough to involve his close folks.One of the first signs you’re in love with a commitment-phobe is easily spottable.The more you see one another, the more marked it becomes that all contact is in on your territory.
But when those same "in love" people take off their rose colored glasses, they realize the person they thought was Mr. ("He's so good-looking," or "What a gorgeous woman! If a person is serious about finding an emotionally available person for a committed partnership, there are whole categories of people who should be avoided: people living in another state, those who are still married or in love with someone else, and people with addictions - be it workaholics or drug addicts.Ever found them take up a class or sign up for a gym membership and later completely back out of it? Anything that requires them to stay committed, they’d rather skip it altogether.Because it’d hinder their spontaneity, and that's just a big NO.To put it in simpler words, commitment phobia is when a person is afraid of being in a relationship for the fear of being tied down and/or missing out (FOMO) on all the other things (and people) that life has to offer them.Commitment phobes believe in living in the moment, for the simple reason of the future being uncertain and unpredictable, and all you’re left with is—now. While their way of life could be exhilarating for those with strict limitations upon themselves (fixed Earth signs), there’s also a bad (ugly) side to commitment phobes that you couldn’t see—because they’re pretty darn good at concealing it.